Many guys are clueless when it comes to impressing the ladies. Great looking beards.
Of course, women tend to be more drawn to personality and maturity than looks (one of the many things that set the genders apart). However, a lot of women also care a lot about a man’s physical appearance. Here are some tips if you want to look sharp the next time you hit the club or want to approach that cute girl at the local coffee shop.
1. Only Grow a Beard if You Are Going to Do it Right
Women tend to have mixed feelings about beards. Part of the problem is that many men just don’t grow their beards out right.
Girls tend to be attracted to men with beards. It is a sign of manliness. However, they want to see that your beard is tidy. If your hair tends to jut out a lot, then you will need to be more diligent about trimming it. This is the biggest secret of all good looking beard styles.
Buzzfeed’s Peggy Wang says that beards are great for some guys, but others should just keep their face clean-shaven.
“Patchy facial hair will always end up looking prickly and slovenly. Time to stop experimenting with the facial hair and start adhering to your clean-shaven regimen.”
2. Get a Workout Before Going Out
Anyone reading this post is probably already working out (or at least thinking about it). Getting exercise keeps you thin and builds muscle, which is a pleasure for the ladies.
However, working out isn’t enough. You also need to know when to work out. There are a couple reasons you may want to hit the treadmill or curl your biceps several hours right before going out:
It bulks up your muscle for three to four hours. You will look extra buff, which will turn more women’s heads.
Mild perspiration will release some pheromones, which subtly makes you more interesting.
Of course, you don’t want to be drenched in sweat either. Get a light workout without perspiring too much.
3. Make Sure Your Haircut Matches Your Face
Ryan Jackson, a grooming expert, states that too many people get haircuts that just aren’t right for them. A buzz cut or cropped hair may look great on someone else, but that doesn’t mean it will work for you.
“I used to think I looked fine with buzzcuts, little did I know my face shape/features weren’t suitable for really short hair,” Jackson says. “I realized this after getting feedback from others who told me, ‘It looks bad, you need more hair on the top of your head.’”
4. Start Wearing Slimmer Jeans
You probably never even really thought much about your jeans before. They are just jeans, right?
No. Your jeans play a major role in your physical appearance. Putting on a slimmer pair of jeans can make you look thinner and taller, which are both pluses with the ladies.
5. Dress Sharp
You will feel a lot more confident if you dress nicely. You don’t need to put on a tuxedo every time you go out. In fact, you don’t want to. It looks stupid, as we saw in Step Brothers.
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So what should you wear? Here are a couple timeless pieces to include in your wardrobe:
White or blue dress shirts
Loafers or alligator boots
Gray, white or light blue cardigans
Think carefully every time you dress to go out. Women will probably notice your style before your face or hair.
6. Trim Your Hair Carefully
Remove any unwanted body hair. Having a three o clock shadow may look good when you hit the club on Friday, but other hair should be removed. Here are a couple things to keep in mind:
Pluck out any stray hairs from your face.
Remove all nose hairs. It’s a good idea to purchase a nose trimmer because it does a more thorough job.
Trim your chest and back if necessary. Most women don’t like to see it when they end up at your place.
If you are very nearly bald, then just shave your hair off. Don’t try to hide it with a combover.
Women like to see some hair on a man, but they want to see it in moderation.
Last Updated on September 16, 2019
You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.
We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.
The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.
Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:
1. Break Your Work into Little Steps
Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.
For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –
(5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.
2. Change Your Environment
Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.
One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.
3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines
Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.
Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.
My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.
4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops
If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.
Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.
I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.
5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action
I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You
Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.
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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.
6. Get a Buddy
Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.
I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.
7. Tell Others About Your Goals
This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.
For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.
8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome
What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.
9. Re-Clarify Your Goals
If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.
Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?
10. Stop Over-Complicating Things
Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.
Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.
11. Get a Grip and Just Do It
At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.
I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future. Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.